Everyone has heard the
phrase in reference to men that
“chivalry is dead” and how our
parents complain that girls are
no longer “ladies”. What does
this mean for our relationships?
Girls always complain
about how guys are rude.
Guys have complained
that girls have become
something that rhymes
with witches.
Has the era of ladies and gentleman
ended or is it just buried
under some trash?
It’s quite evident that girls
have become more aggressive
in their approach to guys or to
get their attention. Scott
Woodring, 18 from
Southampton says “Chivalry is
more alive than being a lady.
Girls have no one to look up to,
to be a lady. You turn on a T.V.
and what do you see? Jersey
Shore, teenage pregnancy, or
some celebrity getting themselves
in trouble.” So is it true
that media has impacted the
way girls have begun to image
themselves? According to most
people interviewed, it does.
Some say that there is now
the “modern-day lady” who is
more aggressive, knows what
she wants, and does what she
wants, when she wants. Where
is the line that separates this
“modern-day lady” from the
girls we see on national television
that expose themselves in
ways that would make our parents
cringe?
Social networking is ever
popular. If you go on
Facebook, you can find girls
with pictures that are provocative
to just plain vulgar. Just
because you didn’t tag yourself,
does not mean people
won’t know it’s you with your
lady bits clearly visible for all
to see while wearing that shirt
you call a dress.
We now also have pseudodating
sites, where you can go
and instead of finding a longterm
partner, you can find
yourself a hookup. Alex K. 22,
from Warminster said
“Compared to when my grandparents
lived, they did not have
one-night stands.” When I
asked him if he thought girls
are creating an aggressive and
sexual image of themselves
online to get guys attention, he
agreed and stated that is was
“very true.”
Girls had plenty to say about
how guys treat them. Lizzy
Millan 20, from Yardley said
that for a guy to act chivalrous
“depends on his motives.”
With that said,
What about those simple acts
that girls expect from guys
whether they are complete
strangers or boyfriends?
Mercedes Armington, 19 from
Newtown said that “It would
be nice if a guy holds a door
open for us.”
It was also mentioned from
several girls that it seemed that
maturity was a factor on
whether a guy is chivalrous or
not. Many girls and women
notice when a man holds the
door open for her and allows
her to go first. We also notice
when they don’t. The reason
we get quite miffed when guys
don’t hold open a door for us
isn’t because we don’t know
how to open a door, it’s just the
principle of holding open the
door. It’s a kind and simple
gesture.
Now you are probably wondering
what all this has to do
about love, and I’m getting
there. How many of you have
gone out on an actual “real”
date? This means the guy
comes up to the door, rings the
doorbell, takes the girl out on a
night he has planned, whether
it be dinner, a movie, sporting
event, anything. Has
chivalry/being a lady affected
how we date?
Many of the guys interviewed
mentioned how hard it
is, financially, to take a girl out
on a “real” date. For instance,
let’s look at going on a dinner
and movie date. Going to a
movie for two people, including
popcorn and drinks is
about $50. Dinner can easily
be another $50. That is about
$100 for one date.
And that’s supposed to be
every time you go on a date?
Chivalry is now dependent
on if a guy is interested
in you, and that his
motives go somewhere
between wanting to date
you and wanting to sweet
talk you to bed.
“Guys are d****. Girls
are s****. Guys just
want to get it in.”
Other girls, feel that splitting
the bill is perfectly fine and
that the idea of just going out
on a date is enough. Others
said that they would be perfectly
fine with just watching a
movie at home together, and
that maybe “real” dates should
be left to special occasions.
How often do these dates
actually happen though? Some
girls say that guys seem to not
put forth the effort in planning
things like dates, and now prefer
the “I’ll see you at that party
at Temple tomorrow night” as
the time for them to hang out.
Have guys become lazy in trying
to work for that lady, and
want to downgrade for something
low-maintenance? (For
all the guys out there, it’s like
choosing between a Toyota
Corolla and a Ford Mustang.
Yes, the Corolla is cheap and
easy. The Mustang however,
when you work for it and go
that extra mile, will be much
more enjoyable in the end.)
This argument could go on
forever, because both sexes
blame each other. However, I
think Kirk Anastasi 20,
summed it up in three simple
sentences,

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